This stage is one of the most emotional of all, since here you need to work and focus on changing your mentality, you must start to be gentle with yourself and see yourself with eyes of love, I know that for a long time we have been sold the idea that curly hair is very complicated, and do you know why? Just because it cannot be handled and treated in the same way as straight hair, because it does not follow a trend that is not natural to our hair, and no, there is not only one type and we are finally understanding this, we are putting an end to the misinformation that existed for the management of our curls and this is reflected in the different brands of hair products for curly hair that have been filling the market in addition to the spaces in beauty salons dedicated to styling curls, the cutting professionals who have understood that it works completely differently to make a cut for straight and curly hair, who did not stay stuck in the oft-heard “I can’t do that layered cut for you because you are curly and that gives you more volume” and all this happened when we began to accept those curves in our head, when we curly hair got tired of fighting with our nature and decided to simply be, “and then we were, we were a trend” but no, we are not a trend or Fashion, wearing your curls with pride is simply a lifestyle, an act of reconciliation with yourself in which you accept that something so important in you cannot be hated, and that no matter how much we try to change the structure of our hair, genetically it is impossible, no matter how many straighteners and straightening treatments you use, your hair grows and when it does, it happens as life sent it to you.
Accepting yourself goes beyond learning to live with your flaws, it is knowing that even if they are present, that is not what defines your value as a person. Now, your hair is not a defect because you have been made to feel that way. Nature was not wrong when it gave you waves or curls. We were wrong when we believed the trends imposed by fashion in which the only option to look good was to wear your hair straightened with chemicals or devices that only damage your hair health. If we are guilty of something, it is letting ourselves be influenced. We recognize it and move forward correcting our mistake. How do we do it? Accepting our naturalness, seeing them with love and with that same love, taking care of our curls, because where there were no options, we create them! And the best way to celebrate it is by showing off our healthy hair, in whatever texture life has given us. Your hair, no matter how much it fits the characteristics of others, is unique, therefore it makes you unique. You are the one who chooses whether to wear it long, short, with volume, very defined, with color or without color, so do not compare yourself. Each process is different. Part of accepting your hair has a lot to do with your emotional state. There will surely be days when you have more patience than others, you may even feel more love or perhaps less. The important thing is that you accept that even though you are not going through your best moment, there is no turning back.
We are not going to romanticize any of the processes and any of the stages, because of course it is not easy, but it is not impossible either, think about it this way; if before you invested time and energy in a straightening or ironing technique, techniques that in the end are not healthy, why not do it to keep your hair healthy and strong? As I see it, you invest the same time and energy, maybe less, but with a different and healthier approach to results, so if one day you are not in the mood to deal with your hair, just don’t do it, take your time to feel better.
Leaving bad habits does not happen overnight so let’s go little by little, one thing at a time, one stage at a time, without forgetting that the priority is you, but to allow yourself to take these spaces in which your energy does not give you, it is necessary that you create others in which your energy is 100% to take care of your hair; nourish it, hydrate it and define it, so when those days come when your mood and energy do not allow you to dedicate time to your hair, it will not affect you, we are not going to fight with our energy, but be careful, everything must be balanced and there must be more care than neglect so that there are no consequences, if you simply stop taking care of your hair regularly, we cannot expect that the day we do it will look the way we want, then… we cannot change our hair structure, what we can do is highlight it by taking care of it, we cannot erase the actions with which we previously caused damage to the hair but we can repair it with patience and love, we cannot erase from time all those words of rejection that we once said to each other when we did not know how to handle our curls, but we can forgive ourselves, embrace ourselves, heal and begin our liberation, changing those words of rejection for gentle words like “today I do not know how to handle it but I know that I will achieve it because now I have the tools” this will not be a never again so you do not feel discouraged, because it will happen in the process until you get to the point where your mind handles it perfectly, this will be a never again to disqualify yourself and feel excluded. So dear curly hair, accept yourself, it is time.
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